tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post358430645689124353..comments2023-07-27T23:50:16.933-07:00Comments on Adoption & Foster Care: My Personal Experiences: Working With BirthparentsMaryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12151910762502998483noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-66780904755206097752012-04-22T17:08:39.881-07:002012-04-22T17:08:39.881-07:00I stumbled onto your blog because you started foll...I stumbled onto your blog because you started following mine. :) I really like this post, because though I'm a birthmother, my child was not removed from me due to abuse or neglect or anything else. I made the choice to place her with adoptive parents. However my point with all this is that as a birthmother who made the choice for adoption, I've judged those birth parents who have lost their children to foster care. I haven't wanted to call them birth parents because they didn't make the choice to become "one like me." Though admittedly I still want to be selfish with the title I have to admit that it's all about the children and the fact that I preach birth families being good for the children on my blog means I need to acknowledge it in foster care as well. (Sorry for the long comment.)Monikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09598390010327967653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-39246216948579356862012-04-19T11:30:44.519-07:002012-04-19T11:30:44.519-07:00Love this post. I especially agree that we all do ...Love this post. I especially agree that we all do the best we can with where we are at that moment.Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07614553637265139846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-38504986221271756292012-04-18T12:17:04.486-07:002012-04-18T12:17:04.486-07:00You said it so well. I've had such a hard tim...You said it so well. I've had such a hard time explaining this to others. Really appreciated your post.Natashahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03704419590988377349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-4960559986101400622012-04-18T11:58:36.971-07:002012-04-18T11:58:36.971-07:00So far everyone involved is going through great le...So far everyone involved is going through great lengths to keep us from meeting the Buddy's Birth Parents.... I can't figure out why. I have asked to meet them....Some act surprised that I haven't yet, and some act surprised that I want to.<br /><br />In the end Grandma told me she would rather we didn't yet as she believes once they figure out He's safe and in a good place they'll walk away and stop trying to get him back. ?<br /><br />SADacceptance with joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08719959847208171653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-62198288571332353812012-04-17T23:19:30.427-07:002012-04-17T23:19:30.427-07:00I have had similar experiences. When we began fos...I have had similar experiences. When we began fostering twelve years ago, I was most nervous about interactions with birth family. It wasn't long at all before I came to realize that it was in the best interest of my foster children, their birth families, and even me, to find the positives in their first families and to build a relationship with them. As a result of being able to build those relationships in the situations where it was possible, we still have contact with some of our former foster children who were reunified with birth family. Without that relationship, we would not be in their lives, which would not be good for them or for us. The realization that I came to when we were foster parents greatly impacted my view on openness in adoption and now impacts the children we have gone on to adopt. You are so right that everyone benefits!<br /><br />Thanks for joining A Real Adoption Blog Hop!Sharlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13584862276628016314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-2338678098190470382012-04-10T16:24:12.745-07:002012-04-10T16:24:12.745-07:00Great points! I love number #1 because it's so...Great points! I love number #1 because it's so true. Many times they themselves didn't come from the best of situations. Humility is also a big part in working well with birth parents, from my experience at least!FootPrintshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01244305923585144422noreply@blogger.com