tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post4971016257946590120..comments2023-07-27T23:50:16.933-07:00Comments on Adoption & Foster Care: My Personal Experiences: Venting . . . And Some EncouragementMaryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12151910762502998483noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-39315964442423087922015-10-12T17:25:56.858-07:002015-10-12T17:25:56.858-07:00Just came across this blog. Had trouble carrying a...Just came across this blog. Had trouble carrying and decided to do foster care when we moved to WA. This was in 1988 and they were just starting a program called Fos-Adopt. We were cleared for foster care, full background check and home check in under 2 months. 1st child placed in Dec 2nd in Feb and 3rd in May. We were honored to be able to adopt the children placed with us in Feb and May and we facilitated getting parental rights taken away from the first child so she was not returned to a horrible environment. Hope all has worked out. I know it can SeaBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09953868895158989130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-14107563648724718612011-01-03T06:27:34.174-08:002011-01-03T06:27:34.174-08:00ALL of that is exactly what I practically chant to...ALL of that is exactly what I practically chant to myself every time something comes up concerning my foster kids that upsets me. it might be their behavior, the system, or just the emotions that come with doing this, but I literally have to repeat all of this to myself AT LEAST once a day.<br /><br />you did a great job of putting it all into words.MamaFosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16347829013467691443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-43241760313748422782010-12-29T12:44:09.952-08:002010-12-29T12:44:09.952-08:00Karine, I'm looking forward to reading about w...Karine, I'm looking forward to reading about what lies ahead for you and your family.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12151910762502998483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-68680868114559667072010-12-29T11:52:48.452-08:002010-12-29T11:52:48.452-08:00I can't thank you enough for these words. My ...I can't thank you enough for these words. My heart is full and tears are falling down my face for the quotes you posted and the video were what I needed to hear today. Thank you! I hope you don't mind but I have to share these quotes and video on my blog because I want to always remember them! <br />We are waiting to be called as foster parents... our journey started almost two years ago, hoping to adopt and it has led us to become foster parents. Anxious and nervous we await the children that will bless our lives that we will be allowed to love... and hopefully someone that enters into our home will be adopted by us :) We are still trying through lds family services but feel strongly now that this where God wants us. I just had to say thank you! Thank you for this post! We have had a lot of saddness in our home since right before Thanksgiving. Some deaths in our family and other things and I have been so heavy hearted... I needed those quotes and that video~!Karinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17154884929715917363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-85790023842983000362010-12-29T09:42:25.123-08:002010-12-29T09:42:25.123-08:00Actually, Dottie, I have a little devil on one sho...Actually, Dottie, I have a little devil on one shoulder that constantly fights with the little angel on the other shoulder. Things just seem to go a little smoother when I listen to the angel!Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12151910762502998483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-79497443991751864042010-12-28T22:01:06.680-08:002010-12-28T22:01:06.680-08:00Mary, I just think you are a total ANGEL! :-)Mary, I just think you are a total ANGEL! :-)Not so Molly Mormon After-Allhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06016896768905640524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-17118193887724779682010-12-27T21:41:06.395-08:002010-12-27T21:41:06.395-08:00I guess I could say I have been a foster parent si...I guess I could say I have been a foster parent since I have had custody and guardianship of 3 of my grandchildren for 7 years. One of the children is not in a different foster home because of issues he has been in therapy for. #4 about family coming out of the woodwork when only when a change is contemplated or necessary is so true. These people were either no where around over the past 7 years or were fighting with me over my decisions and choices for the children, and now that the child is making choices that may require his being in a more restrictive environment they are willing to adopt him or save him from his fate. They are not there for the best interests of the child, which would be to learn to be responsible, not manipulate others or the system or not be abusive, the family (from out of state even) are there only because they don't want him to go where his therapists, DCFS, his foster parents and his guardian are talking about. The new family members appearing have never gone to session, been to a meeting, taken care of the child or even know why he is in his current placement situation, but they feel they are the solution. Thanks for the post. It is absolutely right on and I needed to hear from someone else that I am alone in seeing or feeling these issues are real.Linda Chatelainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12906648231419262602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-8543517031367155912010-12-25T02:11:01.664-08:002010-12-25T02:11:01.664-08:00This is such a great post! We've had to deal w...This is such a great post! We've had to deal with case workers that have their own personal agendas AND CASA too!!!Penelopehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12189608681287603165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-66150354973670199732010-12-18T20:04:04.903-08:002010-12-18T20:04:04.903-08:00I asked myself those same exact questions when we ...I asked myself those same exact questions when we were fostering! I also gave the same response when asked why we continued..."we're supposed to". When we chose to stop fostering we just knew that was what was meant to be too. Now that we are an adopt only home there's a whole new set of questions I ask myself...it never ends :-)MyLindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13129596870030033711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-9441002590977479512010-12-15T15:59:05.989-08:002010-12-15T15:59:05.989-08:00Thank you for your post! I feel so many of the sa...Thank you for your post! I feel so many of the same feelings that you do as a foster parent. We have been foster parents for just over 2 years. Our first little guy we had from age 5 months till he was 16 months. He was able to return to his mom and in the end I felt good about that, but my heart still aches for him and I will never stop wondering where he is and what he is doing. Our second placement had kin come out of the woodwork just at the time when the little boy was really bonding with us. His mom wanted us to adopt him but DCFS choose to place him with kin. He will eventually get to be adopted by them because his parents both had their parental rights terminated last month. It's so discouraging to me because I often feel like DCFS treats us like employees. This is not a job for me. We do this because we feel like we are supposed to. We want to help these children. It's just frustrating to have to work with the system and I feel like foster parents often get the short end of the stick. Regardless, we will be putting our names back on the active list again soon. I appreciate your encouragement. I do know that even though it is frustrating at times, that we are doing a very important thing. Even though I have had a lot of heartache, I've also had a lot of joy and blessings come from doing foster care.Cindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00147983729836796765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-20876184633808350022010-12-15T13:13:40.037-08:002010-12-15T13:13:40.037-08:00Oh, and my addition would be how hard it is to see...Oh, and my addition would be how hard it is to see how people treat their children. It is sickening and can crush your faith in humanity.jendoophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01010044127553834584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-610496261401640272010-12-15T11:54:15.678-08:002010-12-15T11:54:15.678-08:00Thanks for this post, we're dealing with many ...Thanks for this post, we're dealing with many if not all of these. In fact I may tell a story about each of your points for my blog post today.<br /><br />You made me cry with these inspiring words. I am keeping my chin up, but this fostering life remains intense emotionally and physically.jendoophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01010044127553834584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-1877289613613753362010-12-15T09:53:12.743-08:002010-12-15T09:53:12.743-08:00This was a timely post for me. We have been waiti...This was a timely post for me. We have been waiting to adopt only from foster care for a few months, but have just decided to take concurrent placements. We will be facing these things very soon. Thanks!Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14943673424096225070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-75857624487324315162010-12-15T08:30:51.199-08:002010-12-15T08:30:51.199-08:00One of my issues with "the system" is th...One of my issues with "the system" is the birth parents doing the bare minimum for almost a year until TPR has vbeen scheduled and then all of a sudden wanting to step up and take responsibility.Denver Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16236286296187463673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-3336107601261131062010-12-15T08:18:40.900-08:002010-12-15T08:18:40.900-08:00Sandi, I loved the "Do's and Dont's&q...Sandi, I loved the "Do's and Dont's" list on your Adoption blog. Congratulations on your adoption miracles!Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12151910762502998483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-74232556090299984052010-12-15T07:19:50.996-08:002010-12-15T07:19:50.996-08:00Thank you so much for sharing this post! I had th...Thank you so much for sharing this post! I had the same feelings when doing foster care!! In the night after one of our placements left I walked into my kids room and they asked if I would let someone take one of them away. It is very hard for them to loose someone they love but it also scares them not to know what is really happening to the "Brother/Sister" they just lost!! <br />We were able to adopt 3 of our foster kiddos! I get to see the blessing of all the tears we shed.<br />You can read their stories if you click on their picture on the side of my blog. :)BrImHaLl FaMiLyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14713148124849674316noreply@blogger.com