tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post3283494224900651099..comments2023-07-27T23:50:16.933-07:00Comments on Adoption & Foster Care: My Personal Experiences: Foster Placements: Destiny or Chance?Maryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12151910762502998483noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-14821294386490755582010-06-16T12:20:11.571-07:002010-06-16T12:20:11.571-07:00I've thought about this same things. When we g...I've thought about this same things. When we got Landon our caseworker told me that he was "meant" to be ours. She went on and on about how the only reason he came into this world was to be in our family. As a new foster parent it was easy for me to remember the foster care classes, that ANYTHING can happen in your case. I knew it was NEVER a for sure thing. She also told me that Landon's 1/2 sister was interested in kinship. Although I knew from the second I saw him that he wasn't meant to be mine forever, I fell madly in love with him. It was hard to hear that his 1/2 sister got approved to take him and they were just waiting on the ICPC, which took another 2 months. It made it even harder because everyone said Landon was meant to be ours because he looked Exactly like my husband! When we go our sibling group I knew they also were not ours and I didn't fall in love with them like I did with Landon.<br /><br /> Our caseworker was trying to get us a placement. Do I honestly think that he "prayed" or had any spiritual inclination that Jaelah was meant to be in our home, NO. I think it is chance. It has been a pure miracle, the most amazing thing that her mom loves us and wants us to adopt her daughter! At first I didn't feel one way or the other, but as time when by my feelings got stronger and stronger. Oh and everyone says that she looks exactly like me!DMNhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00122220947403381929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-60099688312478496652010-06-03T18:33:32.513-07:002010-06-03T18:33:32.513-07:00Love this post, thanks for more insight into foste...Love this post, thanks for more insight into fostering. <br /><br />Another option is that the family that Christian was "meant" to be with never made the commitment to fostering. Makes you think...jendoophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01010044127553834584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-8397179064705451672010-06-03T11:22:20.861-07:002010-06-03T11:22:20.861-07:00I have to comment because as someone who feels esp...I have to comment because as someone who feels especially out of control in what happens in my life, I have thought about this a lot. May I offer my opinion that nothing is chance, nor destiny, but situations that some we choose and some God chooses for us. All these situations/experiences are, as you said, designed to make us into the person God wants us to be. <br /><br />Thank you for the post...it means a lot, this week especially, to know that others struggle with the same internal questions/battles that I do.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14366139311251330977noreply@blogger.com