tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post6882703774285084550..comments2023-07-27T23:50:16.933-07:00Comments on Adoption & Foster Care: My Personal Experiences: Home is Where You Eat and SleepMaryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12151910762502998483noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-4977216759017672752015-12-05T09:30:09.626-08:002015-12-05T09:30:09.626-08:00Very helpful info, DMN. As a parent in general, an...Very helpful info, DMN. As a parent in general, and as a foster parent in particular, it's a blessing and a relief to learn from others who have been in similar situations.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12151910762502998483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-80901666307860669882010-11-10T21:22:40.446-08:002010-11-10T21:22:40.446-08:00Not trying to tell you how to parent, just somethi...Not trying to tell you how to parent, just something our foster daughter's therapist told us in regards to hoarding food... She told us to Always have food out for her. She suggested that we leave out something like a little bowl of crackers or non-sugary cereals. She said that the 2-year-old would then learn that food would always be available and she didn't have to freak out at the end of meals. Even if she eat so much she threw up, she's eventually learn. After a few days she stopped hoarding food. <br /><br />Good luck! Hope it gets better soon.DMNhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00122220947403381929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-64190828637644863342010-11-10T19:47:20.099-08:002010-11-10T19:47:20.099-08:00Sounds like you are doing very well, even though y...Sounds like you are doing very well, even though your tired aching body may claim otherwise. It will slowly get better!jendoophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01010044127553834584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-7868978732395701882010-11-10T15:42:53.255-08:002010-11-10T15:42:53.255-08:00Great reminder, Lynn!Great reminder, Lynn!Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12151910762502998483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-51524043485799362402010-11-10T15:42:34.479-08:002010-11-10T15:42:34.479-08:00I am no expert but I totally tough love them only ...I am no expert but I totally tough love them only giving in when i know they have had a day harder than normal. then all bets are off and they get babied. this is their life and as sad as that is we have to teach them to be strong and endure. That has been the best gift I have been able to give my kids that leave this house. <br /><br />Also, I am right there with ya in everything you said, I am so glad with all the bad we have to deal with we also get the hugs and sloppy kisses, and eventually we EARN their trust and they love us in a way that is very hard to explain but very needed in their little lives.<br /><br />you are awesome. i am so glad he has you :)MamaFosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16347829013467691443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-50695549109384677242010-11-10T14:21:41.019-08:002010-11-10T14:21:41.019-08:00Some of the things I've read say that children...Some of the things I've read say that children "stop" their emotional development when they "begin" a situation of trauma. Depending on how long this little guy suffered before he came to you, he could very easily be stunted in an infant stage of development.<br /><br />With our last placement of two girls (ages 8 & 9) bedtimes were AWFUL until we started holding them (like babies) for around 10-15 minutes each night before we left their room.<br /><br />I can only imagine the fear your little guy must be feeling at bedtime. As soon as he closes his eyes he's reminded of all that isn't quite right in his young life.<br /><br />Hang in there. I'm sure you'll find the balance between nurture and discipline. But I doubt you can over-nurture at this point in time.Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05574095883181118049noreply@blogger.com