tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post941893511885397534..comments2023-07-27T23:50:16.933-07:00Comments on Adoption & Foster Care: My Personal Experiences: Orphans of the LivingMaryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12151910762502998483noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-10665150524603936012011-05-10T18:24:30.165-07:002011-05-10T18:24:30.165-07:00Just ordered this book from the Lending Library.Just ordered this book from the Lending Library.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-32360251125352186872011-04-30T21:52:34.407-07:002011-04-30T21:52:34.407-07:00I hope every day my own children have success stor...I hope every day my own children have success stories, although none have been adopted through foster care in the US. I'm always amazed at how many children who are adopted (not just foster care) are mistreated. I am working with one AMAZING 17 year old in therapy, and have worked with her since she was 12. Her story is horrific to everyone who hears it, and yet she finally ended up in a great family 4 years ago and is doing well. She's the kind of kid with an internal make-up that I think would do well anyway, no matter what. I always feel lucky to know her.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03271242944383425401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-11036791971691907952011-04-27T18:16:59.255-07:002011-04-27T18:16:59.255-07:00Glad I stumbled upon your blog. I need to pick up ...Glad I stumbled upon your blog. I need to pick up a copy of this... I have a wonderful friend that remained in foster care from late elem years to mid teens.. and is a precious, beautiful, full of JOY mom of 2, wife, and teacher! We are adopting 3 little girls that have been in FC--and I have NO doubt each will have very successful life stories--they are truly wonderful!JMBMOMMYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08409633590101381735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-10523749104890193862011-04-22T14:03:20.313-07:002011-04-22T14:03:20.313-07:00I also just finished reading this book and the cyc...I also just finished reading this book and the cycle of poverty and abuse is heart-breaking. The inability to "save" these children makes attempts by people who care seems futile. But I know that our family may be the one to make a difference for a child, so we are willing to be a part of this system.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07994007638814466132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-82886976094084428692011-04-22T06:37:43.542-07:002011-04-22T06:37:43.542-07:00Thanks for reviewing this book so that I don't...Thanks for reviewing this book so that I don't have to read the disgusting details. It is horrid what is happening right under our noses in a free country with the greatest privileges on earth. Awareness is the first step?<br /><br />I can point you to a foster success story, although I don't think that her success is due to being in foster care. My friend Emily had a very traumatic family life and went through many homes, including relatives. She has a PhD, recently joined the LDS church, had cochlear implant surgery, has reconciled with her mom and has tried to reestablish a relationship with her father. She is nothing short of amazing and is writing a book about her life. <br />This is a link to her blog-<br />http://housewifeclass.com<br /><br />This is a link to a story I wrote about her for a website-<br /> http://mormonwoman.org/2009/10/13/profile-emily-part-one-needs-pic/jendoophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01010044127553834584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8925959104562250919.post-27075652704218802182011-04-18T15:12:23.727-07:002011-04-18T15:12:23.727-07:00I completely agree with your statement, "Our ...I completely agree with your statement, "Our most serious social problems begin AND end with the family." <br />I feel that for those coming from broken homes, backgrounds of grief, trauma, loss, abandonment, etc., understanding the importance of "family" is difficult. Many physically cannot even attach emotionally to another person. Why should they feel "family" is important when their "family" taught them a very different definition of family than I know? Their definition is based on those cyclic behaviors and the horror it created for them. Many of the discussions I've had with individuals coming from those backgrounds, "family" is almost a hated, vulgar word, and often associated with those destructors in their lives that were supposed to be "family." It's almost like there is no way to actually prevent the cycles of addiction (which often is correlated with abuse) and abuse anymore, as you said. <br />The "family" is being attacked on all sides; drugs, abuse, poverty, emphasis on career over family, under-education. It seems to me that one way we can begin healing damage is for society to start understanding the importance of being a strong, healthy families instead of portraying people that are emotionally stunted and laugh at the novelty of coming from a "dysfunctional" family as "the norm."Shinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07248638307776387058noreply@blogger.com