Last week as I was replensihing our supply of board books from the local library I came across Tell Me About The Night I Was Born- in board book form! I had heard of this book, written by adoptive mother (and Activia spokesperson) Jamie Lee Curtis, but I had never actually read it.
Ironically, the very first page I opened up to happens to be the one that stirs up the most feelings inside of me:
"Tell me again about how you couldn't grow a baby in your tummy, so another woman who was too young to take care of me was growing me and she would be my birth mother and you would adopt me and be my parents "
Midway through that sentence I was immediately overcome with with a flood of emotions ranging from gratitude and love to inadequacy and jealousy. Although the part about the woman being "too young to take care of me" isn't accurate in our case since M.'s birthmom is only 5 years younger than I and had two other children, the phrase "couldn't grow a baby in your tummy" left me feeling achy and empty inside. In fact, I was totally caught off guard and I almost burst into tears right there in the library!
I guess it just goes to show that although I think I've dealt with and accepted my own infertility issues there will probably always be triggers that stir things up inside of me. One day I may feel like I'm at "acceptance" in the grief cycle and then the next day I may come across something that puts me back at "depression" or "anger". Proof enough that as wonderful as adoption is, it doesn't "cure" the physical or emotional aspects of infertility. Does adoption cure childlessness? YES!
Back to the book. . . M. LOVES it which means I'll soon be adding it to our permanent collection. Aside from the book having definite appeal to children, I got a kick out of some of the more subtle adult humor the illustrator uses from the names of the books the parents read, the pamphlet the lady is reading on the airplane, and the labels on the diapers and diaper ointment.
Overall Tell Me Again About The Night I Was Born is a book I think younger adopted children and their parents will enjoy reading together.
On a side note and as a head's up: You may be overcome with a sudden urge for yogurt each time you see Jamie Lee Curtis' smiling face on the back cover . . . Activia!