- from the last parargraph of Raina Kelley's Newsweek article, "Birth Moms Deserve Our Respect"" . . . thanks to society's misgivings and misconceptions about adoption, birth mothers are damned if they do and damned if they don't. By indicating that placing a child for adoption is a selfish or painless choice when it's not, or talking about birth mothers as if they were all crack-addled prostitutes or at the very least wayward youth, we not only limit a woman's right to choose but also shut out the possibility that there are other people out there who would love to adopt. Why not try respecting these women as mothers able to make the best decision for themselves and their pregnancies—even if that decision is not to parent?
[There were also some references in the article to how birth mothers (both fictional and real) have been portrayed in the media recently- Juno, MTV's 16 and Pregnant and Brighton Palin, etc. It would be interesting to go back and read the article in 20 years and see if anything has changed.]
Incidentally, many times when people inquire about our little girl's birth mother they are surprised to find that she was not a teenager, but a single mother with two other children who chose to place her baby in a home with a father and a mother.
And for that selfless decision I am eternally grateful to her.