I would HIGHLY RECOMMEND that anyone who has:
- been adopted
- loves someone who has been adopted
-has placed a child for adoption
-has had their parental rights terminated and had another family adopt their child
-loves someone who has placed a child for adoption
-loves someone whose child has been adopted (not necessarily by their own choice)
- who is considering adopting , or
-loves someone who is considering adopting or has adopted
BECOME FAMILIAR WITH THESE CHARTS!
[Maybe not so familiar that you have to study them and pass a quiz type familiar- but familiar enough with the concept that adoption is a complex issue and as wonderful as it CAN be, there is loss felt by all involved in adoption which needs to be recognized.]
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This research was compiled in by two women, Deborah N. Silverstein and Sharon Kaplan Roszia, in the 1980s.
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What struck me most about the research presented in these charts is that:
* Grief and Loss seem to be the main issues of adoption trauma but I appreciated learning more about other areas that affect ALL members of the adoption triad, including rejection, guilt and shame, identity, intimacy, and mastery/control.
*Each of these core issues appear and reappear at different stages of development and in much more than just one arena of a person’s life.
*I found it particularly interesting that birthparent grief can be “postponed” for up to 15 years. Thank goodness for awareness and support groups.